Breaking Up Isn't Easy! Pt3

Here's another quote for you guys:

"Here I am w/ a black eye after yet another violent fight w/ the bf. I want to get out so bad, but its hard and the police can't protect me. It only makes him madder when they get involved and he always seems to get out of it someway. I just feel alone, I don't really want anyone in my family to know b/c they just end up making me feel worse. I just don't understand why he does this, I had a job interview tomorrow. Everything in my life is just so fucked up right now. I know I should leave and I'm really disappointed w/ myself b/c I'm so much better and stronger than this. Please no mean comments, I just wanted to vent and maybe hear how others have gotten out of similar situations"

First of all...This guy does this because he is insecure with himself and most of all an COWARD!! This is just Stephanie all over. She was the same way(read post below) She went through the same thing with her ex and suffered from an black eye as well. Situations like this, no matter what you may fear would happen, YOU HAVE TO END IT! Dont let a person put such a hold on you that you are to afraid to do whats right.

If you have to get the police invovled in situations like this..press charges on his ass! that will give you enough time to move on with your life and relocate if fear lives in your heart that badly. No woman deserves to be put in this situation. The quote above says that he would get angry if she was to call. Then keep your hands to your damn self! then the police wont have to be invovled. Then the messed up thing of it is, she had an job interview. Another woman trying to do right and get her life together but then have some ungrateful knuckle head on her hands who obviously does not want to see her succeed. Because 9/10, he aint got nothing going on with his life so he want to drag her along with him. Dont let that happen. The first sign that you get that your mate is aggressive.....no matter how you may feel about the person, break it off! because you could end up like some of these girls on the news. Hold on to your dignity and dont ever let a man tell you that no one will want you but him because that is a lie!

And this girl knows that she's so much better than what she's getting from this guy and she knows that she a strong woman. Her only problem is fear. Dont let it control you. You control it.

Breaking Up Isn't Easy! Pt2

I have a quote from someone:

[quote]One Of My Girlfriends Is Stalking Her Ex And His New Woman. I Have Tried To Talk To Her..be She Is Out Of Her Mind! I Am Worried About Her.....what Would You Do?[/quote]

Now situations like this people...Dont do. When moving along, the main thing here is to cut off communication. Dont go stalking the person that broke it off with you because that will make you look really desperate and like your just settling. Don't let your ex see you sweat. If he or she feel the need to call you...Don't answer the phone. let it go straight to voice mail. Remember that he or she broke it off with you! or if it was times that you tried to make it work and the other party looked at as if yea whatever, I'm gon do me. Remember that he or she is doing you a favor and that you are top notch priority.

The said quote above. This female is going about it the wrong way. By stalking someone is not going to make that person want you even more. If anything, your further letting that person know that you are nuts! And thie new female is getting a really big laugh out of the situation because she has someone that you obviously want and not over. The key word is moving along. Dont go along and get yourself in trouble that you may possibly end up doing time for. That is not where it's at ladies and gents....that is not where it's at.

Breaking Up Isn't Easy!

People who has been through this situation knows that it isn't easy to move a long from the one you loved and hoped to share your life with. But life have to go on, and you have to make sure that YOU are taking care of. The most IMPORTANT thing and someone when going through a break up is YOU!

Some people, may feel as if the world has ended and that there is no going on with your life if you dont have that special someone by your side. Dont EVER in a million years, think that your life revovles around someone because without him or her in your life...you WILL be alright. Who knows, maybe the person who did the breaking up, did you a favor. You have to think of things like that. Don't waist a lof of energy on the what if's and what should have happened and etc...Get yourself a hobby and move on. Start to date other people. You dont have to be serious or committing yourself to soon to someone...but to get over that hump. As crazy as it may sound, but sometimes having someone around..just to show you a good time, will help you get over the ex.

When trying to date. Some people may feel as if no one else would want them but the ex that you were once with. But let me tell you something. That is not true. Sometimes, you HAVE to go out and meet people because sitting around mopping is not going to bring that one man that you deserves to you.

I have a story to share with you guys. A friend of mine(who's name I will not mention. we will just call her Stephanie) Stephanie was dating a guy for 4 years of her life. And trust me when I say that it was the most miserable and depressing four years of her life. I'm talking going through being abused. Not just mentally but mostly physically. But no matter what the situation was...Stephanie decided to stick with her man through thick and thin. Did he appreciate the things that she did for him? that I dont know. But from what I saw, I would say hell no. See, Steph had this thing that she was so in love that no matter, it was worth her sticking around. I wish that she would have just left before things got really hectic for her. Now this guy that she was dealing with, eventually spent time in the pin. He did 5 years incarceration and Stephanie still rode it out with him. Even though Steph could not support him financially while in the pin...when he first went in, she did what she was able to do financial wise. But was what she did appreciated? HELL NAW!!

So to try and nip this tory in the bud real quick. This guy was finally released from jail and Steph and the guy she loved decided to try and work they relationship out because, while he was incarcerated, they had problems then....arguing and saying things to one another that could really hurt them mentally. But the change from Steph was something that this guy was not ready for. Because while they were together, she was weak minded to him and in a way gullable because of the things he would do like: messing around...being unfaithful to Steph with females right in the next building or up the block and staying the nights out or what have you...no matter what, Steph let him back in...

Now ladies(and men if your going through the same with a female) dont let a man or woman EVER think that they got it that good while in a relationship. If something aint right, nip it in the bud before situations get worse. Thats something that Steph didn't do.

Now back to Steph....she let him back into her home no matter what he seemed to have done. He didn't work, he stole out the house, he was abusive and on top of that, they have children.And all of this going on....smh so anyway, he gets released and they decided to work something out. Now Steph had a lot of resentment toward him. But some where down the line, she hoped and believed that some of the things he would tell her became true one day. He'd say little things like he wanted to make her happy and be a family man and all the other good shit that comes aloong with it. Did she get it? Hell naw! She got nothing but yet Steph was at his every hand that held out for help. She put his first peice of clothing on his back, food in his refrigerator(because he stay in a half way house transitional thing) took him places that he needed to go with no money for gas and on top of that, was throwing him money like it wasent a problem. But you know what Steph did?! she eventually broke it off with him. I was a little confused because even though they decided to part ways, they were still messing around. I was baffled and wondered why..??.. neither of them wanted to end it but then on top of all, he got a white girl pregnant. that is what made Steph move on and step over them stones and get on with her life because I know and she knows that she DO deserves a lot better. Always a no good.......9/10 will always be a no good. This girl is now moving on with her life. Found her a job and planning to go back to school. And to be honest, the way that she was with him, I had to ask, whats the key to your moving on? and she said motivation and love for her children and most of all being strong and have dignity :) thats my girl.

So when moving along(with half the story I gave you guys because it waaay more than that to it) you have to stay self motivated. If you have children, be motivated fro them. Not saying that a guy going off and getting another girl pregnant is the key to just move on OR a girl going out and getting pregnant by another guy is the key to move on. Move on when you know and see that things arent right. Get out before you get dragged in the gutter and so will your self-esteem. It takes time to move on from the ex. but it will happen.

So before I cut it short. Keep your head high and know that you are beautiful and you ARE more precious than gold and cant no one tell you different. Just because it took a man to help bring you into this world, DOES NOT mean that you need a man when leaving this world.