My photo may look a little bit tacky but hey, what can you say, I'm a beginner with this computer stuff. just getting familiar with my miss paint *giggle* .....well, I'm not quite a "beginner" per se but learning to use certain programs on the computer s what I'm a beginner at.(edited photo)
So anyway, this topic today is concerning Family from the other side. as in your S/O family members and/or siblings as well as in parents. how do you cope with them? or just get in good with the family period? it's a hard thing to do when you first enter a relationship. it will not be easy at the start but if your a good communicater, then everything should turn out just fine.
When it came to me meeting my s/o's side of the family, it was an awkward situation and some things happened during the time of me meeting them. my significant other has 2 siblings...1 brother and one sister. before actually meeting the sister for the first time, I talked to her over the phone first. and we also bumped heads over the phone( how could that happen...LOL!) but it did happen. all over her brother and some true facts that she did not have any idea about until I had to put her in her place. I don't know who she THOUGHT that she was talking to, but she knew that I was not the one to be sending threats to. I mean it was all type of talk about her wanting to come to my place of residence and thought that she would actually be able to whoop my ass...LOL! which was funny to me from the beginning. so I told the gilr that if she thought that she was THAT bad, then bring your self up here and see what happens..
So eventually after talking over the differences, we became cool with one another. to a certain extent. I still dont trust the chick and it's some type of jealousy isues going on. not from me, but from her for some reason. I meet the mother once in my life. she even stayed at our apartment for a little while but we no longer speak to one another for other issues that took place. and I'm the type of person that does not kiss anyone's ass...I don't care who they may be or who they are related to. as long as she stay on her side of the fence and don't interfere with my life, we all good. far as the brother, I meet him only once in my life and that was maybe 5 months after I gave birth to my s/o first son. we did't conversate, I meet him and let him spend time with his brother. but we have talked over the phone maybe twice concerning his niece and nephews. other than that. they stay where they are and I stay where I 'am.
However, you got some families that actually gets along well with they're s/o's side of the family and I think that thats a good thing. but I look at it like this. at the end of the day, you are not having sex with your s/o's family and you are not entitled to do anything with yiur s/o's side of the family. bottom line, you are not put on this earth to make them happy nor like you. as long as you and your s/o is happy.....that is all that matters at the end of the day. you DO NOT owe his family a damn THANG!! so keep that in mind when dealing with the other side of the family. if it does not work out for you, don't let it sweat you. if it works out, then fine..you all will live a happy life.
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